As a parent, you may feel unsure how to help when your child is struggling. You may even feel anxious yourself. The most important thing you can do is to stay calm, connected, and consistent. Here are six handy tips to help your child with back to school anxiety:
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Listen with empathy
- Avoid rushing in to “fix” the problem too quickly. Instead, give your child space to share. Use open-ended questions like:
- “How are you feeling about going back to school?”
- “What part of school feels the most difficult right now?”
- Avoid dismissing their worries (e.g. “You’ll be fine!”), and instead validate them: “That sounds tough, I can see why you’d feel nervous.”
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Reintroduce structure
Children thrive on predictability. Reintroduce structure gradually before school starts:
- Set a consistent bedtime and wake-up time
- Have regular mealtimes
- Practice getting ready in the mornings
- Limit screen time, especially before bed, to help reset sleep patterns
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Problem-solve together
Instead of offering one-size-fits-all advice, invite your child to problem-solve with you:
- “What would help make the mornings easier?”
- “Would you like to meet a friend before school?”
- Role-play social situations or walk through the school routine so they can visualise success.
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Model calm and confidence
Children often take emotional cues from their parents. Speak positively about school, and stay calm even during morning stress.
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Work with the school
Reach out if your child is struggling. Teachers and pastoral staff are used to supporting anxious children. Request check-ins, safe spaces, or a buddy system if helpful. Schools can often make small adjustments that make a big difference.
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Seek Professional Support When Needed
If anxiety is affecting daily life for more than a few weeks, speak to a GP, school counsellor, or mental health professional.
Early intervention can prevent anxiety from becoming more severe.
Every young person is different, and what works for one may not work for another. With patience, empathy, and the right support, most can overcome back-to-school anxiety and thrive in the classroom.
